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Breakdown of the American Family

Letter from ItiA

There is much talk in the United States about the breakdown of the family. Everyone is saying that the old concept of the mother, father, and a bunch of kids that all stick together through life is starting to decay in our society.

I have some bad news for these people. The family structure broke down over a hundred years ago. You are just so stupid and slow that you are just beginning to notice it. You fail to notice what the glue of the family structure is, and how it functions. The family structure has nothing to do with the participants (whether there is a mother or father or for that matter even kids). The family structure is built on activities. True families work together, gather food together, and even dream together. The day that the American family decided that it was right and good to send the children off to the city to work at a factory, or send a child to a school in a distant State, the family structure was forever dismantled.

In their idiocy, those who are fighting for the family in America today are pushing the single idea that where there is a mother AND father, there is a family. Really? So a family is simply a structure with two figureheads and nothing else. No clause of closeness or love? That is like saying every house is a home.

The truth is that as you “send your child out into the world”, as you push your child into a corporate job, you forcing them to replace you. Corporate jobs are the same as marriages. You are committing the bulk of your waking time to their pleasure. There is nothing left for the family. The family just gets your leftovers, not your best. That is where the family dies. When this happens to everyone in the family then the family is just a co-habitation group and no longer a group of common goals and common dreams, no longer a family.

In the United States today, the family is a rarity. The majority of America that claims to have a family, when all they really have is a co-habitation arrangement. Its not until the group has to deal with stress or money do they realize that they are not part of a family.

Help, I am ItiA (Inside the insane America)

  1. Zanna
    March 25, 2010 at 3:20 pm

    Nice ideas, but I’m curious as to why you decided to start with the children getting corporate jobs? Didn’t the breakdown of the family start with the mother getting a corporate job during the women’s lib movement? Before that, didn’t it start with the father leaving the farm and getting a job in the city during the industrial revolution? Even before that, didn’t it start with communities leaving the common farm and hunting practices to build their own separate homes and fence off their property and call it their own? Maybe we should look back to the model that the indigenous peoples of this beautiful land gave us of what family means, if we can even remember less than 150 years ago – whole communities working together, playing together, praying together, dancing and celebrating together, dying together. But the greed of the white man’s race quickly obliterated that model, didn’t it? And why? Hm-mm, do you think that perhaps we had misplaced our values and prioritized something that was useless to our ultimate good? So what’s the answer then? Do you think perhaps, if we want to return to “family” we might start forgetting about all the stuff we need and how much money we want and start thinking about working together and loving one another instead? Personally, for me it’s been during those times when we’ve had the least amount of money that I’ve realized just how wonderful and important my family is, and even if I now have to work a corporate job because of the system of greed that has been created in the society I live in, I will still cherish every moment I have to spend with the beautiful people I love – including you 🙂

    • March 25, 2010 at 9:06 pm

      Thanks for your comment. It is true that when dad left the farm for the factory in the 1800’s or when mom left the home for the factory during WWII or during the women’s equal rights movement, the family structure was further damaged. In looking historically at the family structure though, I do believe that children were heavily employed during the onslaught of the industrial revolution. This may coincide with the father seeking outside employment, but I believe that most child labor during this time period was utilized by the family, still on the farm, to generate more cash flow for the family. In other words, they sent their children off and expected cash to be coming in from their labor.

      At any rate, the nucleus of the family was broken by industrialization more than a hundred years ago and not recently as radical religious groups claim.

  2. March 30, 2010 at 2:19 am

    nice post. thanks.

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